TGIF

Even organizers need time off from their work!  Even though weekends can be busy for us.  It is important for all of us to take a break, clear our heads (and hearts), acknowledge our blessings (i.e. gratitude), and take a deep long slow breath.

The process of getting organized is for the long haul, as far as I am concerned.  So, remember to take some time off and recognize how far you have come.  Honor the progress and continue the journey with a clear head and heart.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Why Do We Keep "Stuff"

There are many reasons that people keep things.  

1.  Many of us have a difficult time parting with things that still have functionality, because we see it as wasteful to discard it.

2.  Another often heard reason is that we spent money on it and it would be like throwing away our money.  How about this one?

3. Someone gave it to us and we don't want to hurt their feelings.  

4.  If I get rid of it I'll end up needing it later and won't have it.  

5.  We inherited it.  

6.  It represents something to us on some emotional or psychological level.  

All of these may indeed be valid reasons to keep things, but let's look a bit closer.  

1.  If something still has functionality, but YOU are not putting it to work, the only thing it is doing is taking up space that could be better used.  Donate it, or give it someone who actually does have a use for it.  Or, start putting together a yard sale.

2.  The money that you spent is gone so you could say that you already wasted it.  Use it or lose it.

3.  People do not give gifts as a punishment.  Re-gift, donate or sell things that you will never use.  And come clean with the gift giver.  I would bet that they would rather give you a gift you really wanted, but don't know what you like.

4.  Someday may or may not arrive, and I would tend to believe that if and when that day ever comes, you won't be able to find the darn thing anyway.  So....why let it take up space?

5.  We are not required to like things just because they were passed down.  If it has meaning for you (and you have the room for it), by all means keep it.  If not, find a home for it that honors the meaning it has for you.

6.  Consider whether it still has meaning for you, or if it just a place holder for a memory.  No one can take away your memories and there are ways to honor those memories without surrounding ourselves with clutter.

Momentum

Getting truly organized does not happen overnight.  It is a process and one that usually takes some time.  It may help to remember that:

1.  It didn't get this way overnight; it won't be fixed overnight.

2.  It is likely to get worse before it gets better (this is just the nature of things).

3.  It will take longer than you thought.

4.  You will discover things along the way that you had not anticipated.

Getting started and continuing to chip away at the backlog (even 15 minutes a day) will keep things moving along.  If you find you are overwhelmed or discouraged, call in support whether it be friends (who know what they are doing) or a pro.  The professional organizer can provide a range of services, from consulting and advising on how you are doing, to working hands-on with you.

While organizing is not rocket science, it can be quite daunting nonetheless.  You are in the process of cleaning out your life.  You are confronting that which has been pushed aside, forgotten or ignored.  So, take heart.  It is a journey.  Try to have fun and laugh as often as you can.  It is worth the effort.

Getting Started

Clients frequently want to "clean things up" before my first visit with them.  This reminds me of how my mom used to make us clean the house before the house cleaner would come.  It didn't make sense then and it still doesn't today.  Anyone who has been doing professional organizing for any period of time has seen pretty much everything.  Perhaps the worst scenario I have encountered was with an elderly gentleman who suffered from dementia and emphysema and was living in deplorable conditions.  Not only was it virtually impossible to make my way through the house because of the piles of newspapers and everything else, this poor man was living in a completely unsanitary environment. (Think rodents)

As organizers, we would prefer that you NOT do anything in preparation for our first meeting except think about what you would like to accomplish.  Part of an initial meeting includes an assessment of how you really live, not how you want others to think you live.  It is actually important to us to see reality so that we can devise an effective strategy for rectifying the situation.  The "mess" helps us to learn more about you and how you relate to and live in the environment that you want to change.  As we look through, well, everything, and talk together, we begin to discover how things got this way, and this helps us understand your learning style, strengths and weaknesses.

These are just some of the factors that we take into account in developing a strategy that fits your situation and needs.  So, don't clean it up before we come (there will be plenty of time for that once we start!)

Organizers and Stuff

I am often asked if I am going to make a client "get rid of things". My response to that question is this: It is not my job to make you get rid of anything; it is my job to assist you in making decisions that are consistent with your goals.

The reality is we have a limited amount of space, not just physical space, but emotional and mental space as well. You can keep anything you want as long as you are willing to pay the price for keeping it. We often have emotional attachments to objects that usually have nothing to do with the objects themselves, but what they represent. As part of the process of organizing, it is not unusual to revisit these connections and determine what is currently relevant, and what has been moved past. In working with clients, we will frequently come up with ways of preserving and honoring the meaning of the things without necessarily keeping the things themselves.

For example, I kept many of my favorite children's books so that I could pass them on to my niece and nephew. It took me a while to recognize, and recover from the disappointment that, they were never going to relate to them the same way I did, and that they would never resonate with them the same way. The world had become a different place since my childhood and what had/has meaning for me, may or may not for them.

That was a hard pill to swallow, but it did provide me with more useful options for what to do with these things. Some of them did end up going to my niece and nephew (a few), but most were sent to places where they could be appreciated as I had appreciated them. Some I even kept just to remind myself of who I was way back then.

What do you think?

Why Get Organized

Welcome to my very first blog.  I want this to be a place where people can ask about or learn about organizing and daily money management.  Since I am quite new to the whole "blogging" thing, I hope you will be gentle with me as I learn and grow.  Your input is welcome.  Initially, I think I will start with an idea a day or a question a day.  Once things get rolling this may change.

So, who am I anyway?  

I have been a professional organizer for over twenty years and have worked and lived in many places.  I love what I do and am passionate about it.  Organizing is not so much about stuff as it is about relationships (at least in my opinion).  I do the work I do because it is transformative and, when truly successful, makes a difference in people's quality of life.  Whether in a residential or work environment, a nurturing and sustaining place reduces stress and increases productivity.  I mean, really, who wants to be yelled at by their homes when they walk in the door or into the office?

So, welcome aboard, and please feel free to participate.

Today's thought:  Needing a professional to help you get and stay organized is not a personal or moral failure on your part.

No one thinks they are somehow lacking when they hire a plumber or attorney, but many of us think we should be able to handle getting and staying organized on our own.  In actuality, having an "outsider" come in and assess your environment offers the opportunity for you to get a fresh perspective on what may or may not be working for you.